GF’s weird living situation with rich older man raises red flags; ‚I don’t trust her.‘ AITA?

„My (27m) gf (26f) moved in with a wealthy older man, and now I don’t trust her“

Me and my gf have been together for 7 years most of it we either lived together or saw each other daily. About 2 years ago she took a new job that required her to live at a residence (Like a maid).

I was sad I wouldn’t see her but the pay was going to be amazing and I was happy for her. Then I started to get really suspicious of small things like when we were together she would talk about him not in a boss kind of way?

It’s hard to explain but it was way more personal which, she does live there, so I get it but like she can use his car whenever and everyone else in her family have met him except me.

Then she started going over to other members of his family. About 7 months ago she quit that job and started another, but is still living there… she says he’s just being kind while she gets her stuff together.

The biggest thing though is that when I ask to meet him she denies and one time I went to pick her up and the guy she lives with’s friend came to greet me thinking I was her brother and when I said no I’m her boyfriend he looked shocked like he just heard some tea he wasn’t supposed to.

But when she got in the car and I asked her she had no idea why he would think that. They have since moved to a location she won’t tell me. I’m at a loss. I love her but I feel betrayed. But, also I don’t even know if I have been.

I’m not sure what to do. My family assumes she’s been unfaithful and I should walk away I have no one to really talk to about it. I don’t want to feel like I wasted 7 years of my life.

How should I go about talking/confronting her about this? I don’t want to just all out accuse her of cheating or whatever but I can’t continue being in a relationship if I don’t trust her at all.

Here were the top rated comments from readers in response to the OP’s post:

My girlfriend moving and refusing to tell me where would be an immediate relationship ender without any of the other stuff.

The OP responded here:

It kinda came out of nowhere. She just told me she moved casually one day Tbf I haven’t cornered her and demanded an exact address but I’ve never been over to pick her up since the friend incident at the old house.

You should not even have to ask. You knowing where your girlfriend lives should be the default. She hasn’t told you because she doesn’t want you to know. It’s not impossible that she’s not actively sleeping with him and is just his sugar baby, but I lГ¤nk would say it’s pretty unlikely. And regardless, she’s still lying to you.

So 7 years together but she wont tell you where she lives? And you don’t know the sugar daddy that she lives with? But her family does?? Bro you’re the side piece.

Are you sure it’s a job and she’s not his sugar baby? It’s not a waste of 7 years, you learned from this relationship but don’t get lost in the sunk cost fallacy. She doesn’t care about your feelings and it shows, move on and find somebody who will tell you where they live.